Learning To Let Go- Aparigraha

What we try to possess, possesses us.
— The Yamas & Niyamas, Deb Adele
Sunrise at White Lake, NJ

Sunrise at White Lake, NJ


Think about the things that make you happiest in your life and my guess is that they are not things...  they are most likely to be spending time with those your love, enjoying a good meal, and just being out in nature on a beautiful day.  The last of Patanjali's yamas is aparigraha, or can also be looked at as non-possessiveness, non-attachment, non-greed, and non-grasping.  

We suffer the most when we are trying to possess those things that are not forever.  Living in this world is not an easy thing when it comes to non-attachment.  Aparigraha teaches us to enjoy the moment of goodness when it comes, not grasping for it to continue or happen again and again, but knowing deep down inside, you will be nourished once again.  It's having trust in God or you might call it the universe, that your needs will be met.  

Aparigraha is really a lesson on LETTING GO.  

Are you grasping onto things that you should let go?


Applying this yama to your life


  • Practice generosity

  • Let go of things in your home that cause clutter and a feeling of heaviness in the body...  Do you enjoy it or are you attached to it?

  • Observe how you hold onto expectations of people and situations

  • Forgive others and yourself, so that you are not left clinging to the past and "what should have been"

By the observance of aparigraha, the yogi makes his life as simple as possible and trains his mind not to feel the loss or the lack of anything. Then everything he really needs will come to him by itself at the proper time.
— B.K.S. Iyengar